A Black Man's Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Black men: Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Many men complain that they can’t find a good woman.  This is not true. There are good women out there. The trick is to know what to look for in a woman in the first place. So, what traits should a good black man look for in a woman?

#1: Provider

Yes, you-the black man- should be the provider of the family. However, a good black woman is willing to pitch in and help out. No, you shouldn’t be looking for a woman to take care of you, but you should be looking for one who will help make sure that the family is taken care of. She will help provide for the emotional, physical, and financial needs of the family. How do you know if the woman you are dating is a provider? Observe her. Watch how she treats her parents, her children, or her friends.

#2: Dependable

A good black woman is dependable. Her family can rely on her to have food on the table and to be there even when times are hard. She doesn’t leave you or the family holding the bag.  If the woman you are currently dating is already showing signs that she is unreliable, it may be time to mark her off of your list of potential mates.

#3: Trustworthy

Can you trust the woman you are dating? Can you leave town for weeks or even months without having to worry about her cheating on you? If you give her bill money, does she actually pay the bill? Stop and think about it.

#4: Caring

A good black woman is caring. She is concerned about you. She often inquires about your health. She wants to know how your family is doing. She cares about her community and her country.

#5: Financially responsible

When I say “financially responsible”, I am not talking just about a woman with an excellent credit report. I am talking about a woman who knows how to manage her money. She is not a shopaholic. She knows how to stretch her dollar, and how to plan financially for the future.  This woman will not keep you or herself in debt. If she has made some mistakes in the past, she has identified them and is working through them. So, make sure that you discuss finances with your potential mate before the wedding.

#6: Resolved old issues

A good black woman has resolved any issues from her past relationships. She is not bitter or resentful. She is not fussing or nagging all the time. She has let go of the attitude. And, she has learned to trust a black man and how to elevate and praise him.

So, guy, if you are wondering about the woman you are dating, just do a little inventory.