Finding a Date in a Rural Area

 

Dating is Not Impossible Even in a Small Town

There are several great things about living in a rural area.  Nothing can beat the personal feel of knowing your neighbors or the wide open countryside.  What is not so great is trying to find a companion if you’re single. Living in a rural area can make finding a date challenging, but if you are creative, there are ways to do just that.

*Sporting Events

Men love sports.  It doesn’t matter where they live.  There are parks, clubs, and other places where there is always some type of game going on.  A smart woman knows that showing up at a basketball, baseball, or football game is in her best interest.  Dressing appropriately is common sense, but in order to find a date, it is important to wear something that will attract attention.  A woman must remember that most men actually came to the sporting event to watch the game, so she must wear something that will both fit in and stand out.

Sports events are also a place where men can meet single women.  Some women actually enjoy watching sports while other have children or family members who play. In rural areas, men who are looking for a dating companion can start their search at a sporting event.

*Volunteer Work

Doing volunteer work is another way to find a date in a rural area. The key is to strategically place one’s self where they are most likely to meet a companion. Women can volunteer at places like coal plants, hospitals, schools, police stations, or fire stations. Men can volunteer at schools, hospitals, or any other place where a lot of women work. By volunteering, a person can put their face out there. It’s amazing how many people you can meet by doing this.

*Church Events

Church events provide opportunities to meet other singles.  Some churches host ‘Singles’ Night’ where single Christians can meet.  Even without the designated ‘Singles’ Night’, there are always single people at church. The church picnic or dance is a great place to strike up a conversation with a person who has caught your interests.

*Go to the Movies

Not everyone brings a date to the movies.  Some people go alone because they don’t have a date or they really want to see the movie. In a rural area, going to the movies can provide another opportunity to meet other single people. 

*Friends

Most people have friends, and chances are those friends know other single people. If you let them know that you are looking for a date, they can help suggest other single people. They can also provide information about any potential dates. In a rural area, chances are good that one of your friends personally knows the person you might be interested in. They can find out if the other person might be interested in you.

*Internet

Thanks to the internet, the world is your oyster. You can connect to anyone anywhere.  There are a lot of dating websites that can help you find mates in your area.  Don’t hesitate to use this valuable resource.

*Malls

Shopping malls attract a large variety of people.  They provide a place to shop and a place to meet potential dates.  Make it a point to frequent the stores that cater to the type of person you are look for.  Shoe stores and sporting goods stores will attract men while lingerie stores like Victoria Secrets will attract women.  You can also stroll through department stores like JCPenney, Dillard’s, and Belk. Be sure to browse through the men’s or women’s departments.  Strike up a conversation with someone who interests you, and see how it goes.

Finding a date in a rural area can be challenging, but it is not impossible. It just takes some creativity and strategic thinking.

A Black Man's Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Black men: Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Many men complain that they can’t find a good woman.  This is not true. There are good women out there. The trick is to know what to look for in a woman in the first place. So, what traits should a good black man look for in a woman?

#1: Provider

Yes, you-the black man- should be the provider of the family. However, a good black woman is willing to pitch in and help out. No, you shouldn’t be looking for a woman to take care of you, but you should be looking for one who will help make sure that the family is taken care of. She will help provide for the emotional, physical, and financial needs of the family. How do you know if the woman you are dating is a provider? Observe her. Watch how she treats her parents, her children, or her friends.

#2: Dependable

A good black woman is dependable. Her family can rely on her to have food on the table and to be there even when times are hard. She doesn’t leave you or the family holding the bag.  If the woman you are currently dating is already showing signs that she is unreliable, it may be time to mark her off of your list of potential mates.

#3: Trustworthy

Can you trust the woman you are dating? Can you leave town for weeks or even months without having to worry about her cheating on you? If you give her bill money, does she actually pay the bill? Stop and think about it.

#4: Caring

A good black woman is caring. She is concerned about you. She often inquires about your health. She wants to know how your family is doing. She cares about her community and her country.

#5: Financially responsible

When I say “financially responsible”, I am not talking just about a woman with an excellent credit report. I am talking about a woman who knows how to manage her money. She is not a shopaholic. She knows how to stretch her dollar, and how to plan financially for the future.  This woman will not keep you or herself in debt. If she has made some mistakes in the past, she has identified them and is working through them. So, make sure that you discuss finances with your potential mate before the wedding.

#6: Resolved old issues

A good black woman has resolved any issues from her past relationships. She is not bitter or resentful. She is not fussing or nagging all the time. She has let go of the attitude. And, she has learned to trust a black man and how to elevate and praise him.

So, guy, if you are wondering about the woman you are dating, just do a little inventory.