Tips on How to Date Without Having Sex

How to Date without Having Sex

Dating can be an exciting and fun time. It is a time to get to know the other person and to discover if the two of you have common interests and goals. Dating is one the first steps toward a committed relationship. Too often couples skip vital steps in the dating process and head straight for the bedroom. Sadly, in today’s society, this is the norm. So, how do you search from Mr. or Miss Right without becoming sexually involved too soon?

Date in Pairs

Try group dating. By dating in pairs, this will ensure that the two of you are never really alone. This can also help you control yourself and your sexual urges.

Limit Touching

It is best to limit touching, kissing and hugging if you want to keep your relationship non-sexual. What harm is there in a hug?  A lot. Hugging, cuddling, and other intimate touching can lead to thought of other sexual acts. So, avoid the temptation.

Get Your Mind under Control

Temptation may begin with the eyes, but it is the mind that entertains those lustful thoughts. So, bring your mind under control. Don’t allow your thoughts to linger on sex or other intimate acts. Whenever you find that your mind is beginning to head into forbidden territory, change gears. Stop and begin to mediate on the reasons you wish to remain pure. Remember, it is hard to focus on getting to know a person when your mind is cloud by sexual desire.

Public Places

Stick to public places. Avoid romantic dinners for two or any other dating arrangement that will leave the two of you alone. Restrict dates to places where there will be other people. This will help discourage the two of you from dabbling in sexually provocative behavior.

Have a Safe Signal

Decide up on a safe signal. This is a phrase or a word that will let your partner know that they are crossing the boundaries of your relationship. It can be as simply saying “out of bounds”.

Be Held Accountable

Find a friends or someone else that you can be accountable to. This person should be someone who you can confess your carnal thoughts to. Have this person agree to hold you accountable for your sexual behavior and to remind you of your goal to stay celibate. Simply having to give in account to someone else can be enough of a deterrent.

Never Be Home Alone

Do not head for each other’s homes. This is danger zone number 1. Avoid inviting this person to your house or accepting invitations to their home. It is too easy to go from the living room to the bedroom. So, if you want to invite your date over, do so when there will be other people present.

Take the time to get to know your date. Don’t give in to temptation and miss vital compatibility clues about your date.