How to Stop Being Friends and Become Lovers

 

Help! I’m in Love with My Best Friend

Houston, we have a problem...The unbelievable has happened. You find yourself falling in love with your best friend. Yuck! Now, what? What can you do get your BFF (best friend forever) to stop seeing you as just a friend and start seeing you as a potential mate? It is not as hard as it may sound.

Law of Attraction

You already have things working in your favor. The two of you already have some things in common. This is why you are friends in the first place. Next, you and your best friend know a lot about each other. You are familiar with her likes and dislikes. You know what makes her happy and what irritates her. You know which guys turn your friend on. Use this to your advantage. Don’t change who you are but begin to exhibit more of the traits that your friend is attracted to.

Stop Being so Available

Okay, this may sound cruel, but it works. Stop being available to your friend all the time. If you want her to see you as more than one of the “girls”, you have to stop acting like one. Stop letting her cry on your shoulders all the time. Don’t totally cut her off, but stop listening to all those sad stories about the jerk that did her wrong. Begin to have life of your own. This will force her to stop viewing you as just another great friend.

Find a Date

This may sound weird, but this also works. Nothing can make a girl notice a guy faster than her seeing him with another girl. Sadly, this is true even for me. Sometimes, we don’t notice a good thing until someone else is walking around with it.

Flirt

Begin to flirt with your friend. No, don’t give her that cheesy line you give other girls. Remember, this is your best friend, and she has heard you use them on other girls. So, be subtle. Tell her how pretty she looks. Comment on her perfume. Make excuses to brush up against her. Touch her hair or her arm. Make more eye contact. Smile at her more often. Leave her little notes that say “Have a great day” or “Thinking about you”.  She should soon get the hint.

Confess

After you have begun flirting and a little time has passed, it is time to confess. Find a time when the two of you are alone and both comfortable. Then, tell her that you find her very attractive. See where this goes. Be prepared for her response. She may feel the same. She may need some time to think about it, or she may not want to be anything but friends. No matter what her response is, be willing to accept it.

Falling in love is natural. Although falling for your friend may seem strange, it is actually normal. So, use the tips above and move out of the friend zone and become lovers.