Best Man Holiday

If you haven't already, you must go see "Best Man Holiday". This movie will make you laugh and cry at the same time. it is definitely better than the original 1999 movie. And, let's not forget that it contains some of the best looking men black men in Hollywood. Wow!!! What you say!
And, can you believe that this movie was a box office hit that almost beat out "Thor"? Just think. It made over 30.1 million at the box office. How much more would it have made at the box office if people will stop bootlegging movies.?

How to Adjust Your Attitude and Save Your Relationship

How to Adjust Your Attitude and Save Your Relationship

You’ve heard the old saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” Thankfully, this is not true. It doesn’t matter if you are married, in a serious relationship, or just dating. It is almost impossible for a relationship to work if you are always negative. So, what do you do if you want your relationship to work, but you have an “attitude issue”.

Admit Your Problem

You have already made the first step. You have admitted that you have an attitude problem, and it is having a negative effect on your relationship. Now, you can begin to change it.

Identify the Cause

After you have taken the first step and admitted that you have an attitude problem, you will need to identify the cause of the problem. Take a few minutes and think about what has happened to you in the past to help to create your present attitude. Ask yourself why you are so bitter. Ask yourself why you respond to your partner the way that you do. There is always a cause. This means doing some real soul searching. But, if you really want to save your relationship, you must be willing to dig deep.

Commit to Change

Once you have identified the cause of your negative attitude, you must commit to change that attitude. You must make a conscious decision to change the way you react to situations.

Focus on the Good Things

Instead of focusing on all the things that are wrong with your relationship, focus on what is right about it. How? Start by making a list of all the good things about your partner and about your relationship. Put this list in a place where you can see it. Read the list out loud to yourself two or three times a day. As you do this, you will begin to notice a change in the way that you look at your relationship and your partner.

Be Positive

Stop being so negative. Stop bickering. Stop accusing. After years of negativity, this can be hard to do. However, it can be done. Make the decision to be positive. Surround yourself with positive people. Visualize yourself being happy. Visualize your relationship with your partner being happy and healthy.

Choose to Forgive

So often, our negative attitudes are the result of someone else’s choices. In order to make your relationship work, you have to choose to forgive. Forgive the person who hurt you. Let go of the past. Stop holding your present partner accountable for something your old partner did. Forgive your old partner and move on. If your present partner is the cause of your bitterness, talk to your partner. Get everything out in the open and then move on. Don’t spend valuable time dwelling on old issues. If you can’t forgive your partner, then it may be time to let the relationship go.

Get Moving

Start exercising. This will help to get oxygen flowing throughout your body. It will also help the body to release dopamine and endorphins, hormones that cause feelings of well-being.

Keep a Diary

Start keeping a diary. Keeping a diary is a great way to help you get a grip on your attitude. Whenever you feel yourself starting to become negative or angry with your partner, write it down.  By writing down your frustrations, you can self-reflect, identify the cause of negative thoughts, and change those thoughts and behaviors.

Don’t allow your negative attitude to destroy your relationship. Make a conscious decision to change your attitude and save your relationship.

Romantic Things to Do for Thanksgiving

Are you wondering how to turn your Thanksgiving into a romantic event? Then, stop guessing. Use the following ideas to turn this Thanksgiving into a day for two.

Love leaf

What is a “love leaf”? It is the same as love letter. The only difference is that the love letter is composed using a large, fall leaf to form the background. Search through those beautiful leaves that are falling all around you. Find a large one. Write or type your love note in small letters. Cut it out. Place it on top of your leaf. Press your love note and your leaf together between contact paper. Then, place the leaves between the pages in a large book to flatten them. Once the leaf is flattened, cut it away from the contact paper and deliver your “love leaf”.

Pumpkin patch

Those big, round pumpkins are synonymous with fall. As the cool weather sets in, turn pumpkin carving into a romantic affair. Plan a romantic trip to your local pumpkin patch.  The two of you can pick out pumpkins together for the holiday. Once you have chosen your pumpkin, head back home, and get started carving them together.

Hayride

A hayride is a great way to spend a romantic Thanksgiving together. You can schedule a hayride or you can opt to decorate your own wagon and have a friend chauffeur the two of you around. So, grab a blanket and head out for a special evening of fun.

Bonfire on the beach

Sitting around a large bonfire on the beach at night can be romantic. Gather some kindling, long logs, and a pack of matches. And, don’t forget the blankets and hot cocoa.

Go for a walks

Walking is good for your health and your romance life. Nature is alive with fall colors and scenes. Take your loved one on a walk this Thanksgiving. You can go for a nature walk in the park or at one of the national parks in your area.

Football games

Football season is in full swing, and more than most likely there is a game schedule for Thanksgiving Day.  If your date loves sports, then a football game is just the thing. Pack a blanket and snuggly up while cheering your favorite team.

Dinner by the fire

Instead of the usual full course meal, have a small romantic dinner by the fire. Have some of your favorite Thanksgiving dishes, but only in a scaled down version. Light the fire and snuggle. If you don’t have a traditional fireplace, don’t worry. Just pick a cozy room in your home and enjoy a simple dinner for two.

Thanksgiving is a traditional family holiday. However, you don’t have to spend it with tons of family members. You can make this holiday just as romantic as Valentine’s Day. 

Ways to Enjoy Fall in the South

If you are fortunate enough to live in the South, you know how magnificent fall can be. The leaves are changing, and the weather is getting cooler. Don’t let the cooler temperatures and beautiful landscape go to waste. Get out and enjoy fall.

Nature Walks

Take the children on a nature walk. This is one of the best ways for both you and your children to enjoy the fall. You can point out the different colors of autumn leaves and other forest vegetation. Pay special attention to the plants that grow during this time of the year like Golden Rod, Lemon Queen Sunflowers, and Chrysanthemums.

Hunting

The South has an abundance of forest and wildlife. Take advantage of this lush land. One of the best ways to do that is by hunting. Hunting is a great way to get you and the kids outdoors, and to stock your freezer for the winter. Just be sure that you and your children following hunting safety rules.

Harvest Tea

In the South, we are known for our tea. Just because the weather gets cooler, it doesn’t mean that you have to put down your tea glass. When the cooler weather sets in, host a fall tea party. A fall tea party is called “A Harvest Tea”. This is a tea party where the participants each bring a dish that matches one of the fall colors. These colors include brown, gold, white, and red. These autumn-themed dishes are then placed on a table that is decorated the same color. So, invite your friends over and have a Harvest Tea Party at your house or in your backyard.

Sunday Drive

In the South, we are known for our laid back way of life. This Sunday, keep up the tradition. Slow down from the hustle and bustle and go for a nice, slow Sunday drive. Be sure to enjoy the beautiful leaves, bales of hay, pumpkin patches, and other nice scenery.

Scrapbooking

Don’t just rake up the leaves in your yard. Collect some of those beautiful leaves, and make a scrapbook using the fall foliage. Take individual leaf and press it together between contact paper. Then, place the leaves between the pages in a large book to flatten them.  Once the leaves are flattened, you are ready to add them to the scrapbook with your favorite autumn pictures.

Quilting

Quilting is another southern tradition. Quilting can be done all year, but autumn and quilting just seem to go together. Start by finding a pattern that you like. Pick out your fabric. Carefully place your pattern on top of the fabric. Pin the pattern to the material. Cut out the design. Grab the sewing machine or some needle and thread. Finally, you are ready to start. You can do this by yourself or making it into a fun family event. Quilting is fun, and it is a way to help eliminate stress.

Hayride

Go for a hayride this autumn. Decorate the family wagon or tractor. Grab a nice warm blanket. Jump on the wagon, and you are all set to go.

Take advantage of the cooler weather and beautiful, southern scenery. Do some of the fun, fall activities above. 

New York's New Mayor, Bill de Blasio, and Interracial Marriage.

Who said interracial marriages can't work or that white men don't even consider black women as partners? The biggest question has been would a white man with his eyes on a political office commit political suicide by marrying a black woman? During the last election, people dug up the fact that Paul Ryan had dated a black woman in college. So, what? Well, every since Bill de Blasio was elected people have become fascinated with his wife, Chirlane. His wife is an African-American woman. No, she isn't Beyoncé. No, she is not Halle Berry. She is a strong, beautiful black woman in her own right. And, her presence at her husband's side says, "Yes, a white man with his eyes on a political office can love and marry a black woman.

http://voices.yahoo.com/more-black-women-date-interracially11643770.html

Scandal Season 3 Latest Episode

I know I' m a little late, but I just finished watching the episode from Thursday night. My goodness! I love the show, but I think it is starting to go off the deep end a little. I hope the pull back from some of this. Mellie was raped by her father-in-law. Her oldest son could possibly be her father-in-law's child. Quinn has been set up. This is so whack. I'm just waiting to see who Olivia will be pregnant by, when they will kill Jake, and what will Huck do to save Quinn. Also, I can't wait to see who kills Olivia's father.

Black Women and Nasty Attitudes

While shopping in Walmart yesterday, I encountered the famous "black woman" attitude. The store was crowded. I stopped to let another shopper- a black woman go by. She also stopped. I said, "You can go." She stood there. When I decided to go, the nasty-mouth, overweight, black woman decided to say, "That's so dumb. You so dumb anyway. You just standing there." What's up? Why can't we be nice. I see why other races think we are rude.WE ARE RUDE!!! I realize that this is a negative statement, but God knows, it is true. Why can't we put the drama behind us and move on. Why do we feel obligated to get smart with people? Why do we have to be so loud? Why can't we learn to control our attitudes? Then, we wonder why our black men are dating other women. http://voices.yahoo.com/black-women-relationships-attitude-ruining-11927541.html

Southern Cotton

Southern Cotton

Beautiful, soft

Fluffy

Like floating on a cloud

Deceptive façade

Lovely

Even amid the green

Covering acre after acre

Of the Mississippi Delta

Splattered of red

The Old King of the South

Destroyer of lives

Creator of rot and decay

So fluffy

So soft

Southern cotton

A Black Man's Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Black men: Guide to Recognizing a Good Black Woman

Many men complain that they can’t find a good woman.  This is not true. There are good women out there. The trick is to know what to look for in a woman in the first place. So, what traits should a good black man look for in a woman?

#1: Provider

Yes, you-the black man- should be the provider of the family. However, a good black woman is willing to pitch in and help out. No, you shouldn’t be looking for a woman to take care of you, but you should be looking for one who will help make sure that the family is taken care of. She will help provide for the emotional, physical, and financial needs of the family. How do you know if the woman you are dating is a provider? Observe her. Watch how she treats her parents, her children, or her friends.

#2: Dependable

A good black woman is dependable. Her family can rely on her to have food on the table and to be there even when times are hard. She doesn’t leave you or the family holding the bag.  If the woman you are currently dating is already showing signs that she is unreliable, it may be time to mark her off of your list of potential mates.

#3: Trustworthy

Can you trust the woman you are dating? Can you leave town for weeks or even months without having to worry about her cheating on you? If you give her bill money, does she actually pay the bill? Stop and think about it.

#4: Caring

A good black woman is caring. She is concerned about you. She often inquires about your health. She wants to know how your family is doing. She cares about her community and her country.

#5: Financially responsible

When I say “financially responsible”, I am not talking just about a woman with an excellent credit report. I am talking about a woman who knows how to manage her money. She is not a shopaholic. She knows how to stretch her dollar, and how to plan financially for the future.  This woman will not keep you or herself in debt. If she has made some mistakes in the past, she has identified them and is working through them. So, make sure that you discuss finances with your potential mate before the wedding.

#6: Resolved old issues

A good black woman has resolved any issues from her past relationships. She is not bitter or resentful. She is not fussing or nagging all the time. She has let go of the attitude. And, she has learned to trust a black man and how to elevate and praise him.

So, guy, if you are wondering about the woman you are dating, just do a little inventory.