Knights in Shining Armor
I
can remember reading all those fairytales as a child. I can remember reading
about the princess or damsel in distress and the wonderful, knight in shining
armor coming to rescue her. I believed those stories and wanted to be rescued.
My most of my young life I believed that a man could solve my problems. I kept
thinking, “If I can just get married…I would have someone to help me pay these
bills. I would have someone to come home
to…someone to talk to about my problems…someone to help me raise my kids.”
Praise
God, I have finally woke up. I no longer center my life around my wedding~which
has not come~but around what I can do for myself. I look to my own resources. I
realize that even if there was a man here, it doesn’t mean that I will have the
financial help that I have been longing for or the person to listen to my
problems or the person to be here with me raising my children. I am not saying
I will never marry, but I am so glad that I realize marriage is not everything.
There are no knights in shining armor. Men have problems too. Marriage is a
compromise. It would not be all about me and my needs. So, to all those women
who are still unconsciously looking for a man to rescue them, I would like to
say “Wake up!” Face reality. That man that you are waiting on to save you,
maybe waiting on you to save him.
Build
yourself up. Don’t spend your life looking for Mr. Right. To be honest, there
is no Mr. Right. There are men who are more compatible with us than others.
Learn to love yourself. Learn to be happy with the woman that you are. Before
you know it, the man who is right for you will show up (if that is what you
want).
So,
good-bye Cinderella. Good luck Snow White. Good night Sleeping Beauty. No more
kissing frogs, Tiana. I am doing just fine.
