Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Reflections of Teachers Past


 
Reflections: Teachers

Some of our earliest experiences in life are with teachers. They guide us from elementary school all the way through high school and on through college. Whether our experiences with them were good or bad, they impacted our lives and influenced our attitudes about learning.

My first teacher was my mother.  She taught me how to be self-sufficient. Because I grew up in the country, I was fortunate enough to learn how to live off of the land. My mother stressed the importance of being able to grow your own food- something all good southerners know how to do. She also taught me how to make quilts.

My mother also instilled in me a love of reading.  Whenever it stormed and the lights went out, she would pull out this big book of fairytales, light as many candles as she could, gather us all up, and start reading.  I loved to listen to the stories of ‘Blue bead’, ‘Beauty and the Beast’, ‘The Little Match Girl’, and the ‘Thumbelina’. Even though we were scared of the lightening, we were always happy when it stormed because we knew our mother would read to us.

My elementary school teachers made lasting impressions on me.  As a matter of fact, one of the things that happened to me in elementary school influenced me to push myself to always be the best.

I will have to admit that my elementary school teachers did have a hard time.  I was hyperactive and sitting still in a desk just wasn’t something I could seem to accomplish for any long period of time. I rarely made it to recess because I won’t be quiet, and I simply couldn’t sit in those desks.  By the time I made it to the third grade, my reputation preceded me, and my teachers knew what to expect. They stopped trying to get me to sit in desks all day and begin to understand that a lot of my behavior was the result of boredom. 

Unfortunately, I did have one bad experience.  One day my regular teacher was out sick, and we had a substitute.  The poor lady was stuck with me for 8 whole hours.  After she had had to yell at me for the umpteenth time for not wanting to sit in my desk, she called me to her.  She then told me, “You, little girl, will never amount to anything.  You will never graduate from high school!” Needless to say, I was devastated.  I carried this lady’s words with me for the rest of  my life.

I thought of her every time I was on Honor Roll.  I thought of her whenever I made an A.  I thought of her when I graduated with Honors from high school and college.  I thought of her every time I won a writing contest. And, I think of her every time I stand in front of my own class.  I make it my business to never discourage a child or destroy their dreams.

When I reached high school, I had a wonderful English teacher by the name of Ms. Jones.  She was a tiny, very dignified lady.  She was very proper and very strict.  Because she taught several different English and literature classes, I ended up having her each year for 3 years. She made us write until our fingers hurt, and we got to read a lot.  Most of my friends hated her, but I loved her.  She always encouraged me to do my best, and she inspired me to become an English teacher. 

I did have the privilege of working with my favorite English teacher just before she retired.  I was also fortunate enough to tell her how much she meant to me before she died. 

When I became a teacher, I tried to model my class after Ms. Jones.  I am not quite as strict, but I try to push my students to do their best.  I also make it my business to expose my students to a wide variety of literature-whether they like it or not.  I also make writing a priority because I know it is a skill that they will need the rest of their lives.

Teachers touch lives. They have been blessed to be able to mold the lives of countless children. 

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Benefits of Keeping a Diary


 

Keeping a diary is not just for the young.  It is a great for adults as well. Writing in a diary has many positive health benefits.  Not only does it provide a way of recording the events of one’s daily life, it can help to relieve many physical discomforts.

Ø  Relieves stress

Keeping a diary can help to relieve stress.  When a person is under stress, the stress hormone called cortisol is released into the blood system.  This hormone put the body in a “fight-or-fight” mode, and it stops all functions that are not need immediately. Cortisol is designed to help the body during dangerous and occasionally tense situations. Small amounts of cortisol are good, but on a daily basis cortisol can wreck havoc on the body.

By writing in a diary, a person is able to put all those negative feelings down on paper. It offers an outlet for feelings of stress and frustration which will help to decrease the amount of cortisol in the blood.

Ø  Helps for depression

Writing in a diary can help with depression.  When a person is depressed, they feel hopeless, helpless, and tired.  Financial strains, traumatic events, and stress are some common causes of depression. By writing about one’s feeling and frustrations, a person can self-reflect, identify a cause, and begin to deal with those feelings. A person can write in a diary without having to worry about judged or condemned.

Ø  Improves brain functions

Writing is a mentally stimulating activity and, as such, it is a great way to keep the brain functioning at its best. It can also help improve a person’s memory. By participating in stimulating brain activities, a person can help slow the development of dementia.

Ø  Decreased digestive problems

Diary writing can help improve a person’s digestion.  Because cortisol, the stress hormone, stops or slows any function that is not need immediately during the “fight or flight” mode, a person’s digestion is affected. A person who is dealing with stress on a regular basis is prone to heart burn, indigestion, and constipation.  By decreasing the amount of cortisol in the body, a person can improve their digestion.  Diary writing offers a way to minimize cortisol and improve digestion.

Ø  Decrease symptoms of arthritis

Keeping a diary or journal has also been shown to help with symptoms of arthritis.  Writing about the challenges of the disease allows an outlet for stress and helps the person cope with the difficulties associated with the disease.

Ø  Improved immune functions

Keeping a diary can also help to improve immune functions. Writing in a diary has been proven to decrease stress which has been shown to suppress the immune system. By writing in a diary, a person can decrease stress and decrease the negative effects of cortisol on the immune system.

Writing in a diary has many positive benefits. It has been shown to help decrease the amount of cortisol in a person’s blood stream, decrease digestive problems, improve brain function, less the symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis, and help with depression.
 

Movies about People with Disabilities


Are you looking for a great movie about persons with a disability?  If you are there are some great movies out there.  There are some that are humorous, and some that are serious. The following is a list of five of the best.

#1: “Simeon Birch” (1998)

Character’s disability: Simeon Birch has dwarfism

Moral of the story: This is the story of twelve year old Joe Wenteworth and his friend, Simeon Birch, the small child in town. Simeon Birch suffers from dwarfism. His condition makes him small and his heart weak. Both Simeon and Joe are town outcasts, and this makes their friendship even stronger. In the summer of 1964, the two boys join forces to try and discover who Joe’s father is (his mother refuses to tell anyone). Over the course of the movie, Joe’s father is revealed as is Simeon’s God-given purpose for being small.

#2: “Forrest Gump” (1994)

Character’s disability: Forrest Gump is mentally challenged.

Moral of the story: Forrest has was born intellectually challenged and with a crooked spine. His mother wants him to be normal, but he never is. She give Forrest the phrase “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are gonna get.”  With this philosophy in mind, he sets off to live life and pursue the love of his life, Jenny. Forrest wandering places him at several

historical events. Although he overcomes his spinal problem, he never overcomes his disability. 

#3: “The Miracle Worker” (1962, 2000)

Character’s disability: Helen Keller is both blind and deaf

Moral of the story: This movie is based on Helen Keller’s autobiography “The Story of My Life”. The story is about her and her teacher, Ann Sullivan who helps her become aware of the world around her. Helen has been spoiled and allowed to do whatever she wants because of her condition.  It takes the strong willed Ann to introduce both discipline and learning into her dark world.

#4: “The Book of Eli” (2010)

Character’s disability: Eli is blind

Moral of the story: This movie is set in a post- apocalyptic society. Eli makes his way westward with a sacred book that he believes will restore mankind. His journey takes him thirty

years to complete, but he survives using his unique fighting skills. Carnegie, a new world mob boss, tries to take Eli’s sacred book, but he is unsuccessful. It is amazing that it is only toward the end of the story that the viewer discovers that Eli is blind and the book he has been protecting is in Braille.

#5:Powder” (1995)

Character’s Disability: Powder is gifted

Moral of the Story: Powder (Jeremy Reed) is a boy who has extraordinary intellect and paranormal powers. He is also an albino. His mother was struck by lightning while pregnant with him and dies shortly after he is born. His grandparents keep him in the basement because of his

unusual abilities. Unfortunately, he can’t live on his grandparent’s farm forever. Once his grandfather dies, he is removed from the farm and taken to a boy’s home and forced to go to

school.  Powder is exceptionally smart thus his classmates view him as a freak.  He eventually returns to the farm. While there a thunderstorm comes and he is struck by lightning and disappears.

 

The movies listed above are only a few that explore the world of people with disabilities.  There are great movies, and some can be used to demonstrate the importance of acceptance.          

Ways to Be a Smart Shopper


 

What makes a person a smart shopper?  Smart shoppers are people who know how to stretch a dollar and how to find the best deal.  They use coupons, discounts, and store deals in order to save money.  They are not swayed by fashion or economic trends.  So, how do you become a smart shopper?  Simple.  Use the following strategies and watch your savings add up.

  • Have a budget and stick to it

One of the main things that a smart shopper knows is to construct a shopping budget and then stick to it.  A budget will let you know how much money you can afford to spend during your shopping trip. Having a budget will also help prevent any impulse spending.  By being able to look at actual figures, you will be able to stay more focused on your goal of saving money while getting the things that you really need.

  • Plan a menu

A smart shopper also knows that menu planning can help them save money and prevent food from spoiling.  Check your pantry and refrigerator. Then, plan your menu around the foods you already have.

  • Have a list

How many times have you headed off to the store with a product in mind that you needed to buy only to realize that you forgot what it was once you got there? Before heading out to the stores, a smart shopper will have a detailed shopping list and know where it is at all times during their shopping trip. They will also use that shopping list religiously.

  • Check sales papers

An important rule of money saving is to check sales papers.  Never, never go shopping without checking the sales papers first.  There is nothing more heartbreaking than to purchase an item at one store only to find out after you get home that the item is on sale at a store only a few blocks away.  Be sure that you have a plan when you go into the store. 

  • Shop according to the seasons

Shopping according to the seasons will save you tons of money.  The first of fall is the time to purchase all of your summer clothes, patio furniture, and barbeque grills. The first of spring is the time to stock up on coats, sweaters, and other winter gear.  Stores drop the prices on these out of season items in order to make room for the new season’s stock.

Food items also follow a seasonal trend. January is diet month and all cereals and other healthy living items go on sale. Vegetables like broccoli and cabbage are also at their lowest prices. The end of June and the first of July are the best times to stock up on items like barbeque sauce, ketchup, mustard, hot dogs, and other Fourth of July items.  Strawberries, tomatoes, and watermelons are at their lowest price. Learn which foods are in season and center your meals around them because they are at their cheapest.

  • Buy nonperishable items in bulk

Buy nonperishable items like toothpaste, dish detergent, bathroom tissue, and paper towel in bulk when they go on sale. Evaluate your storage space and try to purchase as much as your budget will allow.  Try to get enough to last for several months. This way, you will not have to purchase the item again until it goes back on sell.

A smart shopper also knows that he or she can purchase large quantities of milk, cheese, and bread.  Each of these items can be frozen.  When purchasing large quantities of milk, remember to remove about a cup and a half from the container.  Slim and low fat milk freeze best.  It is also advised that frozen milk be used for cooking and not for drinking because the components may separate when the milk is frozen.

  • Eat before you shop

A smart shopper knows not to go shopping while hungry.  When you are hungry, you are more prone to give in to impulse buying.  Your hunger will drive you to purchase food items that you don’t need.  A smart shopper knows to eat or grab a simple snack before hitting the stores.

  • Use discounts

Strategic shoppers will grab any discount that they can.  There are tons of discounts available like senior citizen discounts, frequent shopper discounts, military discounts, and student discounts. Always take advantage of these shopping discounts.

  • Use loyalty cards

Store loyalty cards are a must for the smart shopper. The savings may not be much in the beginning, but they do add up. You can receive discounts on prescriptions, groceries, and gas. The money you save by using loyalty cards can be used for other purchases. 

  • Shop alone

Make it a point to shop alone.  Shopping with children or friends can interfere with your money saving strategies. Children can cause you to make unnecessary purchase, and friends can be a distraction unless your friends have the save money-saving goals that you do.

  • Shop later in the day or very early in the morning

Smart shoppers know that things are cheaper at certain times of the day. The best times to shop are early in the morning or at night.  The meat department will mark down meat that is nearing its expiration date late in the evening.  A smart shopper will grab these mark downs and head for the freezer. They also know to cook the meat as soon as possible.  The bakery will also mark down baked goods that did not sell that day.

  • Use coupons

For a smart shopper, coupon use is not just a fad, but a way of life.  Coupons can be used to purchase groceries or other items at a lower price, and if used strategically, they can even make some products free. 

Coupons can be found in the newspaper and on social networks.  Some companies offer coupons and promotions on their products, and all you have to do is visit the companies' websites, sign up, and check for valuable coupons. There are also coupon clipping services.  These services will locate and clip coupons for you. Many new products often have high value coupons on them called peelies or right next to the product.

Smart shoppers know how to find a deal.  They study store sale circulars, use coupons, and shop seasonally. 

How College Students Can Eat Healthy on a Limited Budget


 

College can be fun, and it can be expensive. It may seem hard to stick to a healthy diet while living on a limited budget.  However, with a little smart planning, you can purchase food that is good for you and easy on your wallet.

#1:  Check your cabinets

Before heading out to the grocery store, be sure to check to see what you already have in stock.  Do not buy unnecessary items. This simple step will keep you from wasting money at the grocery store. 

#2: Hunt for Coupons

Coupons have become a popular and cost effective form of currency.  They can help to lower your grocery bill, and all it takes to get them is a copy of the Sunday paper. Coupons can also be found on social network and the different company websites. Many companies offer coupons on their products.  All you have to do is sign up and start receiving coupons.

#3: Buy in season

Fruits and vegetables are an important part of any healthy diet.  In order to save money while sticking to a healthy diet, it is essential to buy fruits and vegetables while they are in season.  They are cheaper when they are in season.  Learn which fruits are in season. Then, plan your menu and make your purchases accordingly.

#4: Wait for a sale

Sure, it may be hard to hold off on buying your favorite yogurt or sports drink, but it is always best to wait for a sale. Check store sells and keep up with the prices at several different stores by collecting the sales circulars.  By keeping up with the circulars, you can determine who has the lowest price on your desired purchase.

#5: Buy in bulk

When an item you eat on a regular basis is on sell, buy it in bulk as long as it is not a perishable item. Try to purchase enough to last for three depending on the amount of space that you have in your dorm or apartment. By purchasing an item in large quantities, you will prevent having to buy it again until it goes back on sale.

#6: Plan ahead

Before heading to the store, have a detailed plan of what you will buy and what coupons or discounts you will use. This will save you time and money. A detailed list and organized coupons will prevent you from having to search for the coupons, and stop you from overspending.

#7: Eat less meat

Although most people plan their meals around meat, it does hurt to go meatless for at least one meal.  Most meats are also high in fats, and consuming too much can be unhealthy. 

#8: Leftovers

Wait! Before you throw out the uneaten portions of last night’s meal, try putting it up to be eaten later.  There are a lot of creative ways to use leftover meat and vegetables. These leftovers can be used in soups and sandwiches.

#9: Water

Drink more water.  It is usually free at most restaurants, and it has no calories.  Water is also need to help keep the body hydrated and to help remove deadly toxins from your system.

#10: Grow your own

What better way to ensure that your vegetables and herbs are fresh and pesticide free than to grow your own? Plant your own garden at home or if you live in a dorm, you can use pots to plant vegetables or herbs.  You can place them in a window or on a countertop.

Just because you are away from home doesn’t mean you can’t eat healthy.  Purchasing groceries can be expensive, but a little creativity can help you eat healthy and stick to your budget.

http://www.oprah.com/money/How-to-Save-Money-on-Groceries
http://frugalliving.about.com/od/grocerysavings/tp/Save_Money_on_Meat.htm

How to Make Your Relationship Work When Your Family Hates Your Partner


 
Surviving Your Family

You love your family and friends, and you know they only want what is best for you. So, when they hate your partner it can leave you feeling hurt and disillusioned.  No matter how much you try you just can’t seem to understand where this hatred came from.  Although it may be difficult, a relationship can survive even though your family hates your partner. Here’s how.

*Identify the problem

If at all possible, try to discover the cause of the animosity. Your family loves you, and there is a reason that they dislike your partner.  Try to help your family and your mate work through all of their differences. However, don’t get upset if the conflict is not resolved immediately.

*Give it time

You will not be able to change your family’s mind over night. It will take time for your family to get to know your companion like you do.  Time may soften your family’s heart and correct whatever issues that may have caused the rift to begin with.

*Point out the good

You should make every effort to remind your friends and family of your partner’s good points.  You have been privileged to see a side of your mate that your family hasn’t.  Point out the special things about your companion. Try to create opportunities for your family and friends to bond with your partner. 

*Set boundaries

Disgruntle family members can cause a lot of problems in your relationship if boundaries are not set. Set boundaries and define limits from the beginning.   Let your family and friends know what is acceptable and what is not. They are your family, but that does not give them an all access pass into your personal affairs.

*Demand respect

Do not allow your family to disrespect your partner.  Demand respect for yourself and your relationship. Do not allow them to berate your partner in front of you, and don’t allow them to disrespect your partner in his or her presence. Define the type of behavior that counts as disrespect. Let your family know you value their opinion; however, you are able to make decisions for yourself.

*Split your time

Split your time between your family and your partner.  Don’t feel pressured to give one more time than the other.  Let your partner and your family know that you love them, but you will not be forced to choose between them.

You love your family, and they love you. You want to please them, so it can be hard to make a relationship work when they hate your partner. However, you are the deciding factor in your own relationship. 
http://www.livestrong.com/article/218474-how-to-cope-with-family-conflict/
http://www.positive-way.comsetting_boundaries.htm
 

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Discuss Finances Before Tying the Knot



 

Money is one of the main causes of marital conflict and divorce.  Each person enters a marriage with their own financial personality and spending habits.  In order of any marriage to survive, it is important that the couple have similar financial habits and goals. Because they are embarrassed by past credit mistakes or fear being judged by their future spouse, some people try to avoid addressing money issues. However, if money issues are not dealt with early on, the marriage is headed for a rocky road. So, how do you address money before marriage?

*Find a comfortable place

There is no easy way to bring up finances.  One simply has to begin.  Remember this is the person that you love and that you are planning to marry. So, relax.  Find a quiet place that is free from distractions. This discussion should also be at a time when you are both relaxed. It should not be done immediately after work when you are both exhausted. Nor should this conversation be had at the dinner table. Pick a good time and a noise free place.

*Premeditated financial questions

Have some financial questions already in mind that you would like to ask when you begin your conversation.  Start with something simple and work from there.  Some important financial questions are:

·         Are children in our plans?

This may not seem like a financial question, but it is one that will have a major financial impact.  If you do plan to have children, will one of you stay at home or will both of you work?  How will you afford daycare or other financial obligations that having children will bring?

·         What are our financial goals? You will need to know what you are working toward as a couple. Will the two of you be purchasing a home? If so, how much will it cost and how will it factor into your budget?

·         Do you use a budget? If your fiancée is not good with money now, their spending habits will adversely affect your finances.  You will need to rewrite budgets to include each other’s expenses.

·         Who will pay the bills?  Is one of you better at money than the other one?  If so, will this be the one to pay all the bills or will you keep separate accounts?

Other financial questions can be discussed, but be sure that these are discussed.

*Be prepared for disagreements

Although most newly engaged couples want things to always run smoothly, there will be disagreements.  Be prepared to disagree about money.  One conversation will not be enough.  You must be prepared to have several conversations over time about money.  And, be sure to come to an agreement on key financial issues. 

*Issues to discuss

Some important financial issues to discuss include credit card debt and student loans.  If one of you has a large amount of credit card debt or past due student loans, this must be disclosed.  Old student loans can lead to wage garnishments and confiscated tax refunds.  Large credit card debt can result in a negative credit rating.

You should each be honest about your incomes.  Your combined incomes will change your tax rate. So, be truthful about your earnings.  Also, discuss any saving accounts that you may have. Beneficiaries may need to be changed once you are married. 

Money issues can ruin a marriage. Some financial issues can be avoided by simply discussing them before the wedding. An engaged couple needs to sit down before any wedding plans are made and have a candid conversation about their financial situations. Any credit card debt, student loans, and other debts that may be looming over the marriage must be discussed.  As a couple, you should also decide who will control the finances and identify what your financial goals are. There is no magic trick to keeping a marriage happy. However, discussing money matters before marriage can help to prevent financial woes.

http://www.ehow.com/how_4586338_discuss-finances-before-marriage.html

Thursday, June 19, 2014

How to Prepare for Divorce Emotinally


 

There are many reasons that a couple may grow apart. Although that rift can sometimes be fixed, there are other times when there is only one solution and that solution is divorce. A divorce can be emotionally devastating for both partners. Whether you were the one who initiated the divorce or the one to receive the devastating news, you will need to prepare yourself for the emotional turmoil that occurs with divorce proceedings.

*Find a good support system

Having a good support system is a must in order to prepare for a divorce. Don’t try to isolate yourself. Family and friends are vital during this emotional time.

*Rediscover yourself

Rediscover yourself. Now that you don’t have to concentrate on making your marriage work, you can once again pursue some of your old hobbies and interests. You should do all of the things that you never had a chance to do while you were busy with your marriage. Pursue careers interests that you have been longing to try. Just be sure that you don’t try to do too much at once. Take it slow. It will take time to adjust to being single again.

*Accept the divorce

One of the first that you will need to do is to accept the divorce. Your marriage has ended, and it may seem like time is standing still. It isn’t. You have to begin to move forward. Stay positive and remember that it doesn’t help to blame your spouse or yourself. Accept the divorce for what it is.

*Take care of yourself

Although it may be hard to concentrate on simple things like healthy eating and exercising during this time, this is just what you need to do. Spend some time concentrating on yourself and not your circumstances. Continue to eat right and get some exercise.  Don’t forget to pay attention to your appearance. Make sure that you are neat and well-groomed.

*Allow yourself to grieve

Allow yourself to feel. Realize that your feelings of sadness, anger, and frustration are normal.  You have just suffered a loss, and it is normal to grieve that loss. Crying is normal. So, don’t be afraid or ashamed to let it all out. The pain of losing your marriage can be scary, but dealing with it is a normal part of the healing process.

*Write about your feelings

Write down your feelings about the divorce. This will help you to release all the anger and frustration that you may be feeling. Talking about your feelings can be difficult, and there may be some issues that just seem too personal to share even with a friend. A diary is private and will allow you to express your feelings openly and honestly. Writing will also help you to put things into prospective. Realize that it is okay to write about the good aspects of your marriage as well as the bad.

*Prepare for questions about your soon-to-be ex-spouse

It is inevitable that there will be questions about your impending divorce and your future ex-spouse. When these questions pop up, it is imperative that you are prepared to answer them. Although you may be angry with your spouse, don’t allow that anger to color your words. There is a strong possibility that those words will be repeated. You can simply explain that things didn’t work out and the two of you decided to call it quits or you can choose not answer these questions. Explain that you are not comfortable answering questions about the state of your marriage or your soon-to-be-ex-spouse.

*Begin to remove painful reminders

 Begin to pack away reminders of your spouse. You don’t have to throw them away. Just put them somewhere out of sight. Remove any of his or her old clothes from the closet. It is also okay to arrange a time for your soon-to-be ex to pick up their things or arrange to have a friend deliver the items to them. Don’t burn all of those pictures you two took together. Take them down and pack them away. If these pictures are of the two of you and your children, it is okay to keep them up.

Coping with a divorce is hard, but it can be done. Begin to prepare yourself for all the emotions and questions that your up-coming divorce will bring. Find a good support system and begin to rediscover some of the interests that you had before you married your spouse.
 
 
 

Monday, June 16, 2014

Signs Your Husband Has Been Unfaithful



 
 

You can’t prove it yet, but you have a gut feeling that your husband has had an affair. He hasn’t said anything.  In fact, your husband is acting like an angel.  So, why can’t you shake the feeling that something is amiss with your spouse? Is something really going on or are you being paranoid?   These are some telltale sounds that your husband has been unfaithful.

*Unexpected Gifts

Everyone loves attention, and nothing says “I love you” like an unexpected gift of flowers or jewelry.  Right?  Has he been acting strange lately?  Has he been distracted and suddenly, he is showering you with gifts and attention?  Beware.  Sometimes those little tokens of affection are his way of apologizing for having been unfaithful. 

*More time at home

Long work hours are usually a sign of an affair.  So, how about shorter ones?  When your husband suddenly has a lot more free time, it could be an indication that there was never any extra work in the first place.  The longer work hours could have been the cover for an affair, and now that the affair has ended, he has more time to spend with you and the family.

*Unexplained Charges

If you and your husband share a bank account, look for unusual withdrawals of money.  His credit card bills may also have unexplained charges for items that you don’t have in your home or for things like dinner or flowers. 

*Late night calls

Now that the affair is over, his ex-lover may be calling your house late at night to try to rekindle the affair.  Pay attention to these strange calls.  Is he being secretive?  Does he leave the room to answer them and come back in a foul mood?

*Strange cars riding by your house or increased traffic near your house

If the scorned lover is not ready to let your husband go, she may start watching you, your house, your children, and your job.  Be aware of strange cars that suddenly start riding by your home.

* Defensiveness

Your husband has become defensive.  He becomes angry when you ask him about the strange calls and the change in his work schedule.

*Sudden Jealous Behavior

Your spouse has developed a jealous streak. For some unexplained reason, he is very possessive. He wants to know who is calling you and what you are talking about on the phone. This is because he knows what he has done, and he is looking for signs that you are doing the same thing. His own guilt has made him suspicious of you.

* Sex Life Changes

Your husband who once had a lagging libido is now constantly in the mood.  Maybe it’s your new cologne or your new hair cut, but chances are he is trying to make up for having been sexually unfaithful.  This increased need for sex could also be a result of him not having sex with his old lover. 

Watch his technique.  If he has suddenly developed new sexual tastes, this could be the result of his having adapted sexually to suit the desires of the other woman. 

*Heading Straight to the Restroom

If your husband has a habit of going straight to the bathroom after a night out or having worked late, this could be a clue that he has had a rendezvous.  Your husband is making this quick bathroom stop to adjust his clothes, check for little love marks, or remove any possible evidence of the affair like lipstick stains or perfume.

How can a wife tell if her husband has been unfaithful?  You can trust your gut. And, you should look for the warning signs.

Signs Your Wife Maybe Cheating on You


 

She’s been sweet lately-a little too sweet.  Ever though everything seems okay, you just can’t seem to shake that feeling that something isn’t right with your wife.  How do you know if your wife is cheating on you?  Look for the following signs:

*Change in appearance

Have you noticed that your wife suddenly looks better?  Is she taking a lot more care with her clothes and make-up than usual? There is a possibility she has just been getting fashion tips from a friend, but not likely.  When a woman begins to take a new founded interest in her appearance, chances are someone has found some interest in her and that someone is not you.

*New perfume

Does your wife smell different?   Is she trying out new perfume?  When a woman begins a new love affair, she will often want to look good and smell good.  There is nothing wrong with wearing perfume, but if she suddenly starts wearing it to work or wearing a new fragrance, this could be a sign that she is wearing it for someone else.

*Jealousy

Men are not the only ones to fall victim to the greened monster called jealousy.  Women are also guilty of being jealous.  A little jealousy is normal.  A lot of jealousy is a warning sign of a guilty conscious.  If you notice that your wife has suddenly become jealous of you, watch out.  Often a person who is cheating will project their own guilt onto their spouse.  They will begin to watch for signs that the spouse is doing the same thing that they are. 

*New Work Schedule

A change in work schedule is not a sure sign, but it is a sign.  If your wife is suddenly working longer hours and spending more time at work, you might want to find out what is going on. She might not actually be working late.  Your wife could be using this excuse to spend time with her new lover.

*Overly Nice

You and your wife use to occasionally bicker and fight.  Now, your wife is overly nice and compliant. Sure, it is good to agree, and you like it when things are going smoothly. However, your wife could be being compliant because she feels guilty about her affair. Men who are cheating like to give their wife “guilt gifts”. Women may not give actually gifts.  They simply pretend to be more loving and check out of the relationship emotionally. If your wife has stopped talking to you, she has started talking to someone else. A marriage must have communication in order to survive.

*Change in sexual habits

Everyone has their own sexual personality.  As a couple, you have learned your wife’s and she has learned yours.  Is she suddenly more excited or more adventurous?  It’s nice to think that this new behavior is just because she loves you, but it could be that she has acquired theses new techniques from someone new.

Maybe, she is suddenly avoiding having sex all together.  Women connect sex with emotional intimacy.  If a woman has disconnected with you emotionally, she will also want to disconnect sexually. 

*Change in attitude of her co-workers

Have you noticed a change in her co-workers’ attitude toward you?  Do they seem to be acting suspicious or even ignoring you?  This could be because they are aware of the affair. 

*Being secretive

Affairs are dirty little secrets.  If your wife is cheating, she will become secretive.  Have you noticed her taking phone calls in the other room?  Is her phone ringing at strange hours? Does one of her friends call more often and she suddenly has to rush out? These could be signs that she is carrying on a love affair.

Women, like men, cheat for many different reasons.  No matter what the reason may be, women do cheat, and they do display tell-tale signs of infidelity.  If you notice a combination of the signs listed above, then it’s time to have a heart to heart talk with your spouse.