How to Make Your Relationship Work When Your Family Hates Your Partner

 

Surviving Your Family

You love your family and friends, and you know they only want what is best for you. So, when they hate your partner it can leave you feeling hurt and disillusioned.  No matter how much you try you just can’t seem to understand where this hatred came from.  Although it may be difficult, a relationship can survive even though your family hates your partner. Here’s how.

*Identify the problem

If at all possible, try to discover the cause of the animosity. Your family loves you, and there is a reason that they dislike your partner.  Try to help your family and your mate work through all of their differences. However, don’t get upset if the conflict is not resolved immediately.

*Give it time

You will not be able to change your family’s mind over night. It will take time for your family to get to know your companion like you do.  Time may soften your family’s heart and correct whatever issues that may have caused the rift to begin with.

*Point out the good

You should make every effort to remind your friends and family of your partner’s good points.  You have been privileged to see a side of your mate that your family hasn’t.  Point out the special things about your companion. Try to create opportunities for your family and friends to bond with your partner. 

*Set boundaries

Disgruntle family members can cause a lot of problems in your relationship if boundaries are not set. Set boundaries and define limits from the beginning.   Let your family and friends know what is acceptable and what is not. They are your family, but that does not give them an all access pass into your personal affairs.

*Demand respect

Do not allow your family to disrespect your partner.  Demand respect for yourself and your relationship. Do not allow them to berate your partner in front of you, and don’t allow them to disrespect your partner in his or her presence. Define the type of behavior that counts as disrespect. Let your family know you value their opinion; however, you are able to make decisions for yourself.

*Split your time

Split your time between your family and your partner.  Don’t feel pressured to give one more time than the other.  Let your partner and your family know that you love them, but you will not be forced to choose between them.

You love your family, and they love you. You want to please them, so it can be hard to make a relationship work when they hate your partner. However, you are the deciding factor in your own relationship. 
http://www.livestrong.com/article/218474-how-to-cope-with-family-conflict/
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