The Reason Some Black Women Don't Marry

 

Fewer people are getting married. Although the decline in marriage is true of all races, black women seem to be feeling the impact of this new trend the most. Why are more black women choosing not to marry? The following are some reasons why:

*Independence

Some women, whether Black or not, don’t marry because they don’t want to give up their independence.  Being single does have several perks. A single woman can go where she wants whenever she wants. She can go to bed when she wants to. She cooks when she feels like it.  Best of all, she can watch whatever she wants to on television and not have to give up some of her viewing time to watch football.

*Lack of Black Men

One of the main reasons black women aren’t married is because there is a lack of available black men. A large number of black men are in jail, gay, or dating outside of the race. African American men represent a high percentage of men in the criminal justice system. According to the Henry J. KAISER FAMILY Foundation, young black men are more than likely to be incarcerated than Hispanic men or white men. There is also a shortage of available black men in certain geographical areas. Black women who really want to marry have to look at interracial dating. Basically, eligible black men are becoming a rare commodity.

*Lack of a Financially Equal

As more and more African American women are moving up the financial ladder, they are looking for mates who can met or match their income levels. Black women are graduating from college at a higher rate than black men. Some black women are just not going to settle for a man who makes considerably less than they do.  As a result, they are choosing to remain single.

 *Too busy

Establishing a career can be exhausting.  So, instead of actively looking for a mate, some black women are opting to remain single and concentrate on their careers. It just doesn’t seem possible to juggle a successful career and a husband.

*Past Hurts

Some black women choose not to marry because they have been emotionally wounded.  They have experienced a hurt so deep that they feel like they have a lost a piece of themselves, and they just aren’t up to the challenge of trying it again.

In conclusion, as times are changing so are marriage trends. Black women no longer have to rely on a man for financial support or emotional support. They are paving their own way in society.  Whether it is because they are too busy, wounded from past relationships, or not willing to be unequally yoked, some black women are choosing not to marry.