For years, our black men have dated and
married white women. However, black women have not so readily embraced
interracial dating. It is only in recent years that the black woman has begun
to embrace her choices. For so long, we were loyal to our African-American
brothers even though they felt no such ties to us. Only a few years ago, it
seemed like almost every black man who played professional sports or who
brought home a substantial income was sporting women who were not of color on his arms.
So,
why did black stay faithful to black men so long? First, some black women were
worried about what their friends and family will say. They worried about how
their friends would react if they dated outside the black community. Second, as
African-American women, we had been feed a bunch of bull about how white men
were not as well-endowed as black men or that they were not as good in bed.
Then, there was the cultural difference.
We
have been taught that men of other races don’t find us attractive. We have been
told that we were too dark, that our
butts were too large, and that our hair is not long enough or soft enough. And,
let’s be honest. As black women, we obsess over our hair. As a result, we
wondered how white men would react to their course tress as compared with white
women.
Now
that the walls are starting to come down, some black men are lashing out. But,
why? There are so many single, black women out there that it only makes sense
for black women to stop limiting themselves. The facts can’t be denied. There
is a lack of available black men. Where are they? They are incarcerated, gay, or
married to women who are not African-American.
I
am not mad at Shonda Rhimes for creating a beautiful, powerful, intelligent
black woman who happens to be involved with a Caucasian male. In fact, I
applaud her for creating Olivia. I applaud her for letting the world know that
a powerful, white man can actually love a black woman. So, to all those black men
who are angry, I would just like to say-“Get over it.”
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