What Does He Mean...

You Say “I Love You. He Says “Let’s Be FWB”

So, you did it. You confess your love to this guy that you have had your eyes and mind on for quite some time. You have been praying and hoping that he felt the same way that you did. It took you a while, but you finally worked up the nerve to proclaim your love. Then, what does he do? Instead of saying that he feels the same way or letting you know that he doesn’t, he suggesting being friends with benefits. What is up?

Okay, siesta. I love you so I will tell you the truth. He means that he likes your body. Maybe he is lonely. Either ways, he has evaluated you and decided that he would like to have sex with you. Same thing as I love you, right? Wrong. At least, he likes me, right? Wrong, again. He doesn’t like you as a person. He likes what he thinks your body can do for him. He likes the prospect of getting you home for dessert. No, he is not considering you as girlfriend or wife material. He is considering you a willing victim. A volunteer to his drama. Don’t fall for it. Don’t agree. Don’t stoop to this level thinking things will change once the two of you hook up. It won’t.

Men place women in categories: girlfriend material, wife material, doable, doable when my boys aren’t around, and no way. You are on his “doable” list. Not one of the first two.

So, what should you do? Tell him, “Thanks but no thanks”, go home have a good cry, and begin to move on. If he comes back later, check to see where his mind is at. If he is ready for a commitment, go for it. But, don’t go along with the game. As my brothers, Stanley and Maurice, love to say “There are no victims in this game, only willing volunteers.” Don’t be a lamb led to the slaughter. Realize you are worth more than that.

Signs Your Girlfriend is Too Young for You

All relationships have their up and downs. However, if you are experiencing more downs than ups and your girlfriend’s behavior is driving you nuts, you may be left wondering if your girlfriend is actually a little too immature for you. So, is it you or is your girlfriend too young for you?

Extremely sensitive

Criticism can be hard to take for anyone. However, a mature person takes it in stride. They realize that constructive criticism is actually helpful. People who are immature view any form of criticism as an attack against them. If your girlfriend is instantly offended if you offer her any type of advice, she is probably too young for you. Your girlfriend is still too emotionally immature to accept constructive criticism or advice.

Irresponsible

Mature people are responsible. They take responsibility for themselves and their behavior. A mature person is accountable for the things that happen to them. They also don’t try to blame others when things go wrong in their lives. If your girlfriend never wants to be held accountable for anything, she is too young for you. Ask yourself if you can trust her to pay the bills on time or to make any type of serious decisions.

Needs instant gratification

People who are emotionally immature need immediate gratification. If your girlfriend is one of those people who must have what she wants the instant that she wants it, she is too immature. She is only capable of thinking of herself.  Your girlfriend is too young for you if you have grown past this stage in your life.

Selfishness

Is your girlfriend self-centered? Does she talk about herself constantly? Selfishness is another sign of immaturity.

Neediness

Do you find yourself annoyed by your girlfriend’s constant calling, texting, or showing up at your house unannounced? If your girlfriend is doing these things, then she is needy. Needy people are demanding. They insist on having your undivided attention. If your girlfriend’s needy behavior is annoying you, then she may not be mature enough to be involved in a serious relationship yet.

Not willing to compromise

No two people will always agree. This is the reason that compromise is so important in relationships. Compromise requires listening, and an immature person is unable to listen to anyone’s need other than their own. Your girlfriend’s inability to compromise is another sign that she is too young for you.

Have you been wondering about your girlfriend’s maturity level? Regardless of your girlfriend’s age, she is too young for you if she exhibits any of the warning signs listed above.